Dilemma: Giving Advice
by DRM2
Photo by melodramababs on Flickr
I give advice. I give suggestions. I give support. I give ideas.
However, it has recently come to my attention that not everyone appreciates how openly I give. Does this surprise me? Why, YES IT DOES!
The Dilemma
So my dilemma for today is this: Is there a way to determine who I should and shouldn’t give advice too?
- Does it matter their personality type?
- Does it matter whether they are management or subordinate in my relationship with them?
- Is gender an issue?
- Or does it just depend on the individual, and I shouldn’t care if they don’t want to hear it, I should give it to them anyways? (my current view point)
As always, I know “Depends” is going to want to be said. I also know that timing may be the key to everything. However, with out those factors involved what else should be determined?
I’m a Communications Major For Cryin’ Out Loud
Human relationships have always been a fascination of mine, particularly human communication methods. So I am genuinely interested in what you have to say on the topic. Later this week (I promise), I’ll give you my in depth take on the topic.
Thanks for participating,
DRM2
Comments
Continue to give advice, i think it is like a noble act.
But it is not the same between private and professionnel advice.
I think professionnel advice is something that you have to do.
The private advice is for someone who you love, and with love there are no cconditions.
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If someone has been offended at your advice, I would probably be careful around them. In my mind, you have to at least try once to know. Also, depending on how long/how well you know someone that would also change things for me. The longer I know someone, the more I can give advice without offending. If I don’t know them well, they might get offended. Look forward to your follow up post
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I think the best way to give advice, is to first ask, “Hey, do you want advice?” Or, “Want to hear my take?” etc. That way people end up asking you for advice, and won’t be offended.
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You should never freely give advice. You should only advise when somebody asks you for your opinion. Otherwise you should just listen. Most people just want to vent.
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Riley Reply:
June 24th, 2010 at 9:23 pm
Wise words from a mustached man.
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If you have some advices to give to me I’li receive with pleasure.
I wait with impatience your advice.
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I’m watching the match Englang/Deutchland and waiting some advice from you.
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Si vous pensez que vos conseils pourraientt améliorer quelque chose dans la vie d’une personne que vous connaissez il ne faut pas craindre les conséquences ,mais c’est vrai aussi que c’est en fonction du degrè de votre relation .
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why there is no answer from you? Do you very busy?
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