David Malmborg

Malone Rookie Year photo by Deseret News

Friday night, my favorite NBA player was inducted into the National Basketball Hall of Fame, Karl Malone. One major reason I loved Karl so much (outside of his awesome pro wrestling career) was his “go out, work and get it done” attitude.

In his speech Friday, the very last thing he said had a solid impact on me.

“It was not about me, it was about trying to do something that made everyone proud.” -Karl Malone

Make everyone proud. What a way to live. Think about how different your life might be if you lived to make everyone around you proud of you, proud to know you, proud to be associated with you. Sometimes I think that we get so caught up in living for our very own legacy, that we don’t care what others think about how we act or behave.

This wasn’t the only nugget in the speech so I thought I would share it with you. Let me know what part you liked best.

Enjoy, -DRM2

image by hartboy on Flickr

Here is a quote that has really struck a cord with me.

“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.” – Timothy Ferriss

Think about all of the uncomfortable conversations. Now think of what came about because of those conversations.

• Job interviews
• Asking your soon to be Father-in-law for their daughter’s hand in marriage
• The Proposal
• Confessions
• Asking for raises or promotions
• The “sex talk”
• Business Partnerships

And it goes on!

Most uncomfortable conversations, I believe, will be the beginning of some great change in your life.

So ask yourself this – when’s the last time you had an uncomfortable conversation?

Pic by FotoRita on Flickr

Why has it taken me so long to write this? WOW! Finally I have posted it.

So I had a dilemma, and I had some good responses that made me think. I want to thank those who talked to me about the topic.

Here is the initial question: Is there a way to determine who I should and shouldn’t give advice too?

Right of the bat, I was kind of surprised by peoples responses, and I started noticing a trend. In general the people all seemed to feel that advice freely given (without knowing the context of said advice) was viewed negatively. I don’t know for sure, but I feel that if I had labeled the post differently I may have received different answers. For example, think of what you might have said if I titled the post, and built the discussion around a different word such as:

• Giving Counsel
• Giving Recommendations
• Giving Suggestions
• Giving Tips or Pointers

All of these are different in their own way, yet each are synonyms to each other. I know it is all semantics, but I wonder how different your answers would be in how to appropriately give your “piece of mind.” Do you think it would change at all? Also, do you agree or disagree with me that out of these terms, advice has a more negative connotation that the rest?

Concerning Advice

Most everyone (small sample of course), said that you should ask to give advice, never just throw it out there.

Because of the idea that advice may be seen as negative, it makes more sense that people are very closed and not too accepting to advice when it is freely given. I feel it is for that reason people prefer if you ask before giving advice.

En Fin

Overall, I feel that I need to take it upon myself to become more aware and conscience of how liberal I am with what I have to say. It seems that it is appropriate to ask if I may share my ideas. Whether the matter is huge or just a trifle, I suppose asking would be appropriate in all circumstances. That is my conclusion of my dilemma. Let me know whether you think I am getting it, or I am completely off base here, I may need to update my thought process again.

Thanks again for participating,
DRM2